This is a topic I think about often. Not because I'm disappointed or sad about it, but because it's something people often comment on. True, when I thought about my future children before having any I almost always imagined I would have girls, or at least one. Boys were foreign creatures to me. I have a brother and his friends were always around, but I didn't "get" them. So when I found out my first child was going to be a boy I pretty much freaked out. However, once he was born it was love at first sight. I felt so much joy and pride and gratitude. He was not just a boy, he was MY boy.
With my others of course I had some hope for a girl. Who wouldn't? But I knew that either way it really wouldn't matter. They were going to be my children and I knew I would love them beyond reason. By the time I got to my 4th I was leaning more towards wanting another boy because by that time they were all I knew. So when they said it was indeed a boy there was a feeling of relief. I thought "Cool, I got this!" Of course I would have been overjoyed with a girl as well. I don't dislike girls after all. But in many ways I feel like having all boys is a very unique and special thing. So many people have a hard time seeing that though. I'm going to write out some of the comments and questions I have gotten and my responses to them.
1. Were you trying for a girl? - No. I wanted 4 kids. I got them. They are all amazing, unique little people. They all also happen to be boys.
2. All boys? You must be lonely - I wish I had a minute to be lonely. I have 4 kids constantly clamoring for my attention. I get more hugs and kisses in a day then you would believe. My boys are incredibly affectionate and cuddly. Lonely, ha!
3. Do you wish you had a daughter to do things with? - There is literally nothing that I could do with a daughter that I couldn't do with my boys, my husband, my sister, my nieces, my friends, or by myself.
4. How sad you don't get to buy pretty things. - I buy pretty things all the time. For myself!
5. But baby girl clothes are so much cuter! - I don't think so at all. I love dressing my little guy up. He has so many cute shoes and hats and sweaters and socks and diapers. And in a ton of different colors. Red, blue, yellow, brown, green, etc. Honestly, if I had a girl I would probably dress her in boy clothes most of the time anyway since I'm not a fan of pink and that's mostly all I see for girls.
6. You must have a lot of patience. - Okay, this one might have a ring of truth to it. However, I don't think that it matters if you have boys or girls or a mix of both, all parents have to have a lot of patience.
7. I bet you're jealous that your sister/friend/acquaintance/etc. is having a girl. - Wrong! I am not jealous of other people's families. No other family compares to my own and no one else's kids are as awesome as mine. If anything everyone should be jealous of me. Haha, just kidding. Sort of. I think we all feel this way about our families. Or at least we should.
8. All boys! I'm sorry. (yes, I really have had someone say this to me)- Excuse me? What exactly are you sorry for? That I have four amazing children who are kind, generous, sweet, loving, gentle, gorgeous, and, most importantly, healthy? I know so many women who would love just one child and who would trade places with me in a minute. I'm one of the lucky ones. I know this and am thankful for it every day. If you don't see how truly fortunate I am, I really don't have much more to say to you.
9. Guess you only make one kind. - You might want to take a basic biology class.
10. Do you ever get tired of noise and dirt and sports and cars? Yes. I'm not a fan of any of it actually. Thankfully my boys aren't a stereotype. They're actual human beings, each of whom has a wide range of interests. They like sports, books, music, cooking, baking, art, mythology, clothes, animals, babies, bikes, slides, bugs, science, movies. The list goes on and on. I have a hard time paying attention when my oldest rattles off facts about his favorite football teams and players, but thankfully we have about a million other topics that we can discuss for hours. And there are endless things that the boys and I and my husband like to do together. We have favorite t.v. shows we share and discuss. We all love to read and talk books. We go to the park often. We cook together, we play games, we shop (yes some boys do like to shop!), we exercise, we do arts and crafts. They are a lot of fun and the people I love hanging out with the most.
So, I'll stop there. Hopefully I made my point. I'm extremely blessed and I know it. My family is perfect to me. I have FOUR SONS. How amazing is that? Pretty damn amazing if you ask me.
So, next time you meet a mom who is having her first, second, or tenth boy please give her a high five and a huge, enthusiastic congratulations. Because that new baby boy is just as special and amazing as every single other baby in the world.